Principles and Tips
“Educate the child according to his way and when he’s old he will not depart from it … ” (Proverbs 22:6)
Hashem has given each of our children unique personalities, strengths and weaknesses. We must
recognize and respect our children’s individuality. The inherent way of a child—his or her given
traits—should not be suppressed by parents. Rather, we should cultivate them to the fullest,
bearing in mind that negative traits should be channeled positively.
In addition, the sages explain that children must be trained in self-discipline—to set boundaries
and change their habitual natures until they attain sovereignty of mind over heart. Living a life
that is guided by the framework of Torah law provides plenty of opportunities to exercise
mindfulness over impulse and hone this ability
Following are some things you, as a parent, can do to help your child:
• Help your child develop a sense of responsibility—ask him or her to help with household tasks, such as setting the table, or putting out their clothes at night so they are prepared for school in the morning.
• Help your child set their own achievable goal—they will learn to take pride in herself and rely less on approval or reward from others.
• Use discipline to guide and protect your child, rather than punishment to make him feel bad about himself. Follow up any discussion about what not to do with a discussion of what to do instead.